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Love-Sex-Trust: A Guide

$9.95

Put simply, we are motivated by love and sex. You are wired for connection and designed to physically demonstrate love. Yet that does not mean things will unfold smoothly.

  • Are you trying to decide to stay or go?
  • Do you feel blocked from getting closer?
  • Are you bored with sex?
  • Are you curious about the potential your relationship can have?

While aspects of love and sex can be analyzed logically, much is difficult to explain. What is true is that Love-Sex-Trust are completely intertwined.

A simple wish resurfaces consistently. You want happier love lives. The Love-Sex-Trust approach has evolved out of years spent analyzing, in detail, what makes people suffer in relationships, what you really want instead and how to obtain and sustain something better.

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Mate Selection: Rate Your Match

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Do you believe you can find someone who is safe, exciting and gets you? 

Dating tends to elicit an overall negative reaction as you associate it with past experiences of longing for a partner amidst the ups and downs of loneliness and hopefulness. Or, with selecting someone you feel is perfect upfront to later experience a different dimension of their personality, hurting your heart and making you mistrust your judgment. 

Knowing truly what you want in dating, like in all areas of life, is the first, sometimes hardest step, towards achieving it. Next is knowing who you are and who you best fit with. Then, how to enjoy the relationship while also evaluating compatibility over time. These are skills you can improve.    

Mate Selection: Rate Your Match is a workbook designed to help you build your personalized roadmap to finding your ideal match. The book, similar to Securing the Relationship Perimeter: Close Up, With Others, Long Distance, is a workbook, similar to Love Sex Trust and Money explores subconscious and underlying relationship psychology. Incorporating evolutionary, financial and attraction psychology to explore how humans, as social animals, express value as resources, mark territory, mask insecurity, and establish social hierarchy and positioning of status. 

Whether focusing on your career or love life,  compatibility is key. From my experiences as a counselor specializing in both arenas, I distilled elements into a simple Rate Your Match five item compatibility rating system.

Outlining key personality traits and comparing these between you and a potential partner, you can gain a clearer picture of who you are most compatible with and why. In addition, concrete skills in discerning integrity, flirting and dealing well with loneliness so you don’t feel too desperate are also shared. All of these skills not only deepen your maturity, it also increases the likelihood your children will find high quality future partnerships themselves. 

Contents

  • Introduction: Selecting A Mate, Appreciating Yourself
  • Determining Your (True) Dating Purpose 
  • Rate Your Match
  • Discerning Manipulation 
  • Ethical Seduction 
  • In The Meantime (Skills)
  • Resources

Estimated read time, 27 minutes, (exercises) 30 minutes 

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Negative Habits: Exploring My Patterns

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Would you like a non-dramatic, private way to evaluate your relationship to your own habits?

Habits, (including working, sex, substances, shopping, exercise, gambling, pornography or others), don’t necessarily start out as negative addictions, but can become so quickly when they function as your default ways to compartmentalize and cope with confusion in your internal, emotional life.  

Negative Habits: Exploring My Patterns is a workbook to increase your own self awareness about your past unresolved grief and how to address it, either on your own, with your partner or with a therapist, so you can become more present for your future goals and desires. 

This is not a book about overcoming addiction and I’m not an addictions specialist. I was a grief counselor and similar to eBooks Feeling Grief, Loss, Anger, Resolving Abandonment and Rejection, Interpreting Trauma Responses: Dissociation and Reactivity, Retrieving My Childhood Self, negative habits and complicated defenses originate as a way to cope with grief. As in my practice, this book, along with the others, guides you to non-judgmentally explore your own unresolved grief wired into your nervous system, motivating habits. 

  • What do you associate with self soothing? When did this start? 
  • What losses were happening in your life at that time?
  • How do negative habits feed your deeper addiction to shame? 
  • What resources would you like to build up instead?

Approaching your personal story of loss, anger and coping first, instead of circling around the drama of your behaviors, you can start to demonstrate deeper curiosity about yourself, increasing the energy necessary for setting and sustaining future healthier habits.

Contents

  • Introduction: What is pain? What is pleasure? 
  • Self Soothing: Pleasure and Pain                    
  • Adaptations
  • Authority Figures, Identity, Integrity 
  • Rebuilding Integrity (Skills)
  • Resources

Estimated read time, 25 minutes

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Plotting My Sexual Revolution: Overcoming Performance Issues

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How would my life be different if I felt inspired and safe to express myself sexually? 

Your sexuality is your own. An extension of your unique self to express how, when, why you choose.

Plotting My Sexual Revolution: Overcoming Performance Issues reflects the approach to sex and intimacy I take with clients in my practice. Being introduced to adaptive sexuality early in my career as when working in a hospital, along with theories of differentiation of self, among other influences, have positively broadened my approach. Your body is your own, tells a story that you deserve to listen to.

Insead of reducing sexuality as a form of currency that you have to exchange, work on, prove or defend politically or personally, or owe your partner, you start with an empowered premise that sexuality is yours to express. Seeing sexuality as a broader concept, not solely a technical act, opens up the conversation. Sexuality, like passion, however that is expressed, should feel creative, inspiring, generative, not mechanical, other oriented, performative or forced.

This book overviews some sexual education basics  about phases of sexual intimacy and arousal cues to use as a stand alone, with your partner or therapist. Guiding you to troubleshoot your own specific issues that may be blocking your individual organic expression of sexuality. 

Approaching your own sexual life with curiosity, compassion and competence, you signal to yourself that you can face this part of your experience and that your personal happiness is very much worth investing in. 

Contents

  • Introduction: Love Sex Trust 
  • Tuning In, Turning On
  • Sexuality Idealized Design 
  • Phases, Desire-Arousal Cues, Identity 
  • Reworking Mistrust-Performance Issues (Skills)
  • Resources

Estimated read time, 34 minutes, (exercises) 20 minutes 

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Private Couples Retreat: Do It Yourself

$9.95

Would you like to deepen, reignite, or decide about your relationship on your own in a private, cost efficient way?

Entering into a relationship is an investment you want to protect and nurture.

While there’s no absolute guarantee that you’ll end up on the winning side of risk versus reward, embarking on the journey into being loved is ambitious. Starting a love story is brave, a pathway to overcome the confines of your own self, deepening your maturity and life, both now and for future generations.

Private Couple Retreat: DIY is a workbook helping you create your own immersive, inexpensive couple’s experience. You decrease the emotional, financial, physiological risks inherent in relationships by becoming competent. This book walks you through the steps I use in my practice helping couples deepen, reignite or decide about their relationship. 

Learning skills to navigate your current relationship, and using additional eBook resources, you create a theory of “why” your relationship exists as it does now, articulating your true desires for moving forward. Building a conscious strategy, you become empowered.

Not existing unconsciously codependent in your relationship, confused, frustrated, blowing around in the wind, you have agency. You develop independent tools to tell the truth to yourself and your partner about how much love you truly want, seeing what is truly possible between you two. 

Contents

  • Adaptations to Intimacy
  • Retreat Blueprints 
    • Logistics
    • Pathways
    • Mindset
    • Tips
  • Scripts
  • Pitching Retreat to Partner 
  • Safety Protocol
  • Evaluating Outcomes
  • Resources

Estimated read time, 29 minutes

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Rate Your Emotional I.Q.

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Want to invest in yourself? Are you curious about your growth and development? 

 

Life feels more full when you know yourself deeply. 

 

Being less sure of who you are increases anxiety, confusion and loneliness. Start with this eBook to begin your internal self inquiry process, establishing a baseline to track future progression. Self awareness is a skill you can improve upon.

 

Rate Your Emotional IQ is a self-administered quiz to assess six core areas associated with the Love Sex Trust Productions ™ ecosystem. Your responses create six area specific profiles. Use to increase self awareness, relationship skill building and decision making. 

 

Understand yourself better.
Choose the answer that represents your most common and frequent response in your closest relationships. Don’t overthink your answer, go with your gut. Don’t answer with the ideal response if it’s not accurate to who you really are. Your unexamined reactions, particularly ones that are immature, tell a story of past hurts, so it’s a way to become more curious about yourself.

Gain perspective on your partner’s point of view.
You and your partner, romantic, friend, parent simultaneously take the test and compare and contrast profiles. Take it again, answering as you imagine your partner would most likely respond. See if your results match their version. Discuss the differences to better understand yourselves and each other.

Evaluate your relationship.
Your reactions in close relationships also have a lot to say about your compatibility with your partner. Take the quiz imagining interacting with a different person and see if your responses tend to be similar or differ.

Set goals. Track your progress.
Use your results to set personal and relationship goals. Use the Love Sex Trust Productions ™ resources to deepen your consciousness, and develop skills that help you fulfill your ideal. Retake the quiz at three month intervals to witness how you’ve evolved. We’re excited for your growth and development.

Contents

  • Introduction
  • Performance-Optimization 
  • Grief, Anger, Loss Consolidation  
  • Sexuality: Performance, Identity, Arousal, Desire, Trauma
  • Intimacy Tolerance: Coupling
  • Stay or Go: Relationship Decision Making
  • Mate Selection/Recovery: Compatibility, Dating
  • Resources 

 

Estimated read time, 62 minutes, (quizzes) 30 minutes

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Resolving Abandonment and Rejection

$5.99

Do you describe yourself as someone who is a perfectionist, or avoids conflict or a people pleaser?

Do you feel it’s often disappointing to put your trust in others? 

Do you find yourself in conflictual relationships or conversely, anti-social or numb?

Abandonment isn’t just due to someone physically leaving, it’s also instigated by a deep lack of attunement to you early on. You’re built to be resilient, but feeling unseen and unheard while dealing with complex scenarios often creates an abandonment wound. Starting in childhood, then re-enacted through adolescent and adult relationships, leading you to develop complex emotional defenses. 

Have you experienced any of these common abandonment scenarios?

  • Death or loss of a parent 
  • Parent chronic mental or physical condition 
  • Parent substance abuse 
  • Parent chronic absence 
  • Chaotic living environments
  • Sibling chronic issues 
  • Caregivers unprocessed childhood trauma, resulting in their inconsistency, emotional neglect, rage, competitiveness, engulfment, enmeshment, abuse. 

Resolving Abandonment and Rejection is a workbook designed to help you identify abandonment wounds from your early unprocessed childhood trauma. Similar to ebooks, Retrieving My Childhood Self, Feeling Grief, Loss, Anger, Interpreting Trauma Responses, understanding your own experiences doesn’t get rid of them, but attuning to yourself, validating your own life, very much softens the emotional impact.

This book gives you concrete ways to understand stages of child development, your level of reactivity to triggers and create an Anti-Abandonment Plan. Encouraging you to become aware of deep hurts and address yourself with compassion and competence, you deepen your maturity, benefiting yourself, all your relationships, and future generations. Your hard won efforts forever alter your intergenerational legacy of abandonment. 

Contents

  • Introduction: The Legacy of Abandonment
  • Intergenerational Trauma
  • Attachment Theory
  • Acknowledging Abandonment 
  • Child Development and Adult Reactivity 
  • Resources

Estimated read time, 37 minutes

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Retrieving My Childhood Self

$9.95

What is your younger self trying to tell you? Do you know how to pay attention? 

Guided imagery is a way to bypass intellectual defenses and access your deeper emotional states. 

Retrieving My Childhood Self, is a guided imagery workbook to help you connect to your inner, non defensive, vulnerable self. 

A companion resource along with ebooks Feeling Grief, Loss, Anger, Resolving Abandonment and Rejection and Trusting Myself. As you start to give yourself permission to acknowledge feelings, the defenses you previously used to protect yourself can soften.

This can be used as a stand alone resource, with the JOURNAL app, your partner or a therapist. Going back in your imagination to your younger self, you integrate this old part of you with the current more attuned version of yourself. Feeling lighter, more loved, fulfilled and energetic going forward. 

Learning to ask your younger self important questions and knowing what to look at within yourself, allows you to feel more competent, self compassionate and embodied as a person. Your life can feel more grounded and rich.  

Contents

  • Introduction: Who Do I Belong To?
  • Your Body Tells A Story
  • Somatic Approaches
  • Guided Imagery (Homework)
  • Retrieving My Childhood Self (Script)
  • Resources

Estimated read time, 27 minutes

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Securing the Relationship Perimeter

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How close do you want to feel to your partner?

You protect what you value most. Contrary to a currently popular notion of more openness, when your relationship, if it’s one you truly want, is well defined and protected, you feel more secure. You spend time cultivating experiences and memories, not fighting off insecurities. When your relationship isn’t well protected, but you’re attached, you likely feel less attached and resentful.  

Securing the Relationship Perimeter: Close Up, With Others, Long Distance, is a workbook, similar to Love Sex Trust and Money and Mate Selection: Rate Your Mate, exploring your subconscious and underlying relationship psychology. Incorporating evolutionary, financial and attraction psychology to explore how humans, as social animals, express value as resources, mark territory, mask insecurity, and establish social hierarchy and positioning of status. 

Similar to how I work in my practice, instead of starting off prescribing communication behaviors, you are encouraged to evaluate your instinctive behaviors for more information about your true feelings. 

 

Concrete tools, incorporating other eBook resources, help you assess how close you want to be with your partner, define what this looks like in daily life, and communicate all of it clearly. Increase respect for yourself and your partner by ethically, consciously engaging in defining your relationship and protecting its value. As you increase a solid foundation, you decrease insecurities, allowing each of you to be more vulnerable, increasing your overall sexual and intimate life. 

Contents

  • Introduction: What is Worth Protecting? 
  • Evolutionary Psychology 
  • Closeness and Autonomy 
  • Up Close (Skills)
  • Long Distance (Skills)
  • Resources

Estimated read time, 20 minutes

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Separating: Due Diligence Before Starting Over or Leaving Peacefully

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How would your life feel without so much self doubt and second guessing?

Creating a new reality requires energy as you take a leap of faith in yourself.

Ambivalence is a coping strategy. It serves an important purpose when life presents impossible scenarios your heart feels is almost impossible to bear. The problem, however, of living in a state of limbo, being undecided for too long, is that it requires too much energy. Burnout, not having enough energy to feel hopeful and make critical decisions ushers in depression, sabotage and/or a new relationship crisis, keeping you confused and feeling ineffectual in your own life.

Separating: Due Diligence To Start Over or Leave Peacefully, is a workbook supporting your head and heart. Providing you with structure by helping you organize feelings, observations about yourself and your partner, and parenting responsibilities. Incorporating other eBooks to help you better understand relationship dynamics, attachment, sexuality, so you can better tackle complex relationship decisions. Learning how to tell yourself hard truths in a loving way, and effectively communicate these to your partner, family and children, allows you to deepen your maturity, benefiting yourself, your relationships, and future generations.

Contents

  • Evaluate Your Relationship
  • I Want to Separate To Improve Relationship
  • I Want to Separate And Likely Want a Divorce
  • Getting My Household in Order (Children, Finances, Housing)
  • Communicating Stages of Separation Stages (Scripts)
  • What About Dating Other People?
  • Re-Evaluation & Arriving at Conclusion: Moving Forward Together or Apart
  • Resources

Estimated read time, 59 minutes

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Shutting Down Toxic Exes, Families and Parental Alienation

$9.95

Do you need concrete help to deal with difficult personalities in your life? 

Denial is a tricky coping mechanism. While it helps short term, it can lead to prolonged suffering long term. When managing a close relationship with someone with a difficult personality, whether married or divorced, denial tends to continue as long as possible. Once it starts to fail, as you begin to see more clearly deeper truths, while painful, it can be the beginning of your personal transformation. 

Shutting Down Toxic Exes, Families and Parental Alienation is a workbook designed to help you gain a clear understanding on the patterns and tactics of manipulation used by difficult personalities in relationships and how to communicate strategically. 

This book, along with Difficult Personalities: Am I or My Partner a Narcissist, Affairs, Infidelity, Betrayal: Confront and Decide and Mate Selection: Rate Your Match, adopt an approach similar to how I start with clients. It doesn’t start with exploring your self esteem or others due to trauma, it starts with a communication analysis of manipulation tactics. 

This book leads you to review all the difficult personalities, meaning emotional immature and aggressive people, you have, or may be yourself, in your life. Taking this inventory helps you review earlier relationships to see how you originally learned to use denial to convert others’ mistreatment into self blame and self oppression. How you have your own anger that you repress and covert as well.

Instead of using denial, feeling defeated by invisible, toxic underlying aggression, or being passive aggressive yourself, you gain energy through competency.  Seeing your relationship chronology, as well as analyzing communication patterns of manipulation, while not exactly fun, provides important clarity. 

Strategies and scripts are provided to become more expert in complex communication. You can harness this challenging situation as a way to deepen your own emotional maturity. Increasing your own internal peace and potential for success in future relationships. Your children are also more likely to find high quality future partnerships themselves. 

Contents

  • Introduction: Sideswiped 
  • Theater of Triangulation 
  • Inoculating From Manipulation 
  • Communication Policies and Procedures (Scripts)
  • Rewriting (Real)ity For Your Children (Scripts)
  • Resources

Estimated read time, 39 minutes, (exercises) 20 minutes

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Tracking Myself: Moods, Dreams, Progress

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How curious are you about all parts of yourself? Your true desires, the subconscious, social and shadow sides?

The ability to make desired changes (or not) in your life is due to your underlying beliefs that you are competent. Tracking reflects an investment in yourself.

Tracking Myself: Moods, Dreams, Progress is a workbook designed to help you track accountability, study patterns and deeply learn about your subconscious self. Use the JOURNAL app, stand alone or  with a therapist.  

  • Do you want to dive into your own subconscious to get to know yourself more deeply?
  • Do you want to increase positive habits with health or creativity?
  • Are you observing relationship patterns as you evaluate your relationship?
  • Are you observing your own emotional triggers and resulting moods?
  • Are you tracking your own and partner’s denial and progress towards stated goals?
  • Do you need to monitor effectiveness and side effects of medicine or other health interventions?  

Contents

  • Introduction: Creating Your Personal Archive
  • Progress Mindset: Am I a good parent to myself? 
  • Mood Monitoring:  How am I feeling?
  • Dreams: What is my psyche saying? 
  • Progress Tracking: Where am I going? 
  • Resources

Estimated read time, 18 minutes

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Trusting Myself

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What does your relationship to yourself look like when you’re not coping?

A design question guiding my practice and business is, What comes after being healed? 

This isn’t to say that a perfect outcome exists if you just work hard enough. The question also doesn’t assume you are intrinsically problematic either. It is a motivational interviewing question using idealized design to define a present problem by starting with envisioning your overall desired outcome, then working your way backwards to the present.  

Having a vision of your future self, relationship and life and troubleshooting beliefs and behaviors  blocking this development, is more empowering than working hard to fundamentally fix yourself. 

 Trusting Myself is a workbook helping you create and reinforce concrete skills that deepen your connection to yourself. Inviting you to listen and develop your own authentic, creative, intuitive and heartfelt truths. Use as a stand alone resource, with the JOURNAL app or alongside your partner. 

The book outlines two different processes for you to compare and contrast to your own, unique style of creative expression. One is a non-verbal, artist and industrial design professional system of idea development. One is a goal setting, somatic mind-body, verbal process. Both strategies activate both the subconscious and conscious approach to problem solving, creative brainstorming and expression. 

Contents

  • Introduction: Is your life friend or foe?
  • Defining Your Creative Process
  • Working Through Personal Blocks 
  • Plotting Your Personal Evolution

Estimated read time, 15 minutes

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Visual Guides: Use to Investigate My Personal History

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How do I love? How do I fight? How do I trust? Where am I developmentally? 

Navigating through the invisible terrain of feelings and beliefs requires a map. Your current answers reveal clues to an important story, your own unique past.  Art is a direct pathway to stimulate feeling and thoughts. You have important knowledge inside of yourself if you’re interested in diving deeper. 

Visual Guides: Use To Investigate My Personal History uses evocative visual imagery and guided journal prompts to help stimulate your subconscious to explore your true experience with heartbreaks, trauma, attachment, intimacy and development.

Use as a standalone or with the JOURNAL app. Instead of avoiding, being curious about all your experiences, positive and negative, honors your past. As you face and make sense of your past, you increase hope and energy for your future. 

Contents

  • Journey of the Heart
  • A Woman’s Journey of Pain
  • A Man’s Journey of Pain
  • Journey of Attachment 
  • Journey of Abandonment
  • Journey of Sexual Intimacy
  • Instructions for a Journey Within (self or with a partner)
  • Wayfinders 
  • Resources

 

Estimated read time, 20 minutes, (exercises) 30 minutes