Rejection is a simple lack of fit.
Rejection, without abandoning the self is straightforward. It has nothing to do with your core as a person, it’s simply a lack of fit. An attempt that didn’t work out. An incongruence. It is what it is. No one is a devil or angel.
If you get fired as an assistant because you feel you are more competent than your boss. You aren’t being spoiled, it’s just a bad fit. Or, if you feel bored with your girlfriend a lot. She’s not defective, the two of you just aren’t right for each other. Rejection, therefore, is just a statement of something that doesn’t work well.
If something isn’t working well, a rejection is a good thing. It’s the truth. Rejection can save you a lot of time, money and heartache by listening closely to it. Instead of interpreting rejection through a younger lens of insecurity and not being good enough– feeling victimized– you can see it through adult eyes, it’s efficiency.
Rejection can guide you to your ideal
Rejection is an opportunity to be thankful, not crushed. On the backside of an attempt that fails, you can regroup and refocus your energy on identifying what you would like to add in your life that will lead you to more enriching experiences.
Rejection can help you build a life that fits you like a glove, surrounded by people who are able to understand and value your worth, and vice versa.The longer you live in a world filled with love, your susceptibility to rejection decreases.
So, if someone doesn’t like you as a friend, mate or employee, so what. If you feel they are a credible source and can learn something from their feedback, then embrace the opportunity, it’s likely to prove very constructive. Then, move on down the road. You like you and have others who do too. Your future is waiting.