Do you feel powerful within yourself and connected to your partner?
I’ve had the vantage point to dive under stereotypes and learn deeply about how men feel about themselves and their partners. Just like every person is multi-dimensional, so are men and women.
Masculinity is Sociological
Masculinity, the qualities attributed to a man, is deeply personal, however, your culture influences the content you choose to use to define yourself. Often, when talking about masculinity or femininity, the conversation stays on politics of terminology or value judgements of each side, as if there is a competition, for instance, “You know men are, they ____” or likewise, “Women are all so _____.”
The conclusions drawn are often simplistic and judgemental, but it’s also understandable. Masculine or feminine doesn’t exist on an island, it’s embedded in the larger historical, political, legal, religious, and economic context.
I understand why both males and females get reactive about each other’s reactions. You get judged, oppressed and privileged via your societal gender identification, so, of course, it comes loaded with implications. It’s important to be aware of these embedded within your own identity and that of your partner. In fact, conflict is typically the means you use to get to and unpack these underlying sensitive issues.
However, the position of having or not having power in our society, is only one part of a person. There’s much more going on deeper inside– feeling wise– but that often doesn’t get addressed.