Most people are usually focused on the outcome, however, paying careful attention to the details inherent in the process of deciding are extremely important. If you don’t address these details well, you can be left with ambivalence, self doubt, sometimes even on-going cycles of indecision and confusion.
Looking deeper into the psychological aspects of the process of deciding to Stay or Leave can be a road to freedom. The problems in the relationship itself and the challenging of the decision can point to earlier family or developmental issues that might have gotten overlooked. Sometimes, you haven’t been given the luxury, freedom or training of how to decide what you want by using your intuition, feelings and self-advocacy.
Tuning into how you go about the decision making process, you can ultimately strengthen your “gut” instinct and correct any deficits/negative modeling from earlier in life.